I would like to share something with you that is so incredibly important when it comes to helping your child overcome any learning, behavior or mood problems. In my Whole Child Treatment approach I teach that a child’s spirit, body and brain function together as one interdependent system and, therefore, must be treated as one. You know, I work with parents and teachers, and it is interesting to me that it is often the word spirit that seems to give some people pause. They ask me, ‘What do you mean by spirit? Is this a religious concept? Is it a new age concept?’ My answer is, ‘ No, no and no!’ None of those things. When I speak of a child’s spirit I am speaking about the child’s inner self. About that core or essence of that wonderful child. About the child’s inner energy or life-force.
So let’s talk about this vitally important part of the child that I call spirit – because the reality is that everything in a child’s life – everything – begins and ends with the health of the inner self. And of course this applies to the parents too. A healthy inner self is where all life-enhancing thoughts and behaviors come from. It is where strong positive self-esteem and self-belief come from.
I think you will agree with me when I say that you can immediately see when a child has a healthy, robust spirit? These children show courage, they have chutzpah, they are determined and resilient in the face of pressure. They are proud of who they are – comfortable in their own skins. They relate easily to others and find life exciting. They have the ability to use their talents to the full and they reach for great goals. Parents who have a child with a healthy inner self need to simply support, validate and nourish that spirit. And – these parents would be wise to be mindful that their child’s robust spirit is balanced with an equal amount of compassion.
There are children who have a vulnerable or hurting inner self. These children are sensitive, easily hurt, they don’t believe in themselves…life can be difficult and stressful for them. These are the children that often have learning, behavior or mood challenges. If you are aware that your child has a vulnerable hurting inner self, please know this with great certainty – that given time, and with the right parenting approach, your child can develop a strong, healthy, confident spirit. The trick is to know how to help him or her achieve this.
Be aware of two important facts now proven by scientific research:
1. It is through a healthy parent-child connection that you can help your child strengthen their inner self.
2. The healthiest and most healing parent-child connection is spirit to spirit – or inner self to inner self. When your healthy spirit engages with your child, this is what will enable your child to develop a healthy inner self.
As the parents heal so does the child
Children need to feel that mom and dad feel good about themselves – that their inner self is strong and calm and happy. It is difficult for vulnerable children to thrive when mom or dad’s spirit is hurting. That is why working with parents plays such an important part in my in my Whole child Treatment process.
There are many excellent ways to strengthen a child’s spirit and reprogram self-belief – but here’s the thing – before you can use any of these tools, there is one question a parent needs to think about, answer and then address, if necessary. The question is this:
Do I have a healthy spirit?
I hope you will think about what I have shared with you today –it is so critically important and remember that I offer a free 20 minute consultation – so give me a call and I will be glad to answer any your questions you may have.
Here are two very short videos (one and a half minutes each) that will show you how the spirit-body-brain works as one system. I think you will find them extremely useful.
http://bit.ly/1nXXGte (46 seconds)
http://bit.ly/1Q8N6g3 (3 minutes)