Whether we are conscious of it or not, every single thing we say and do, and how we say it and do it, emanates from beliefs we have about ourselves, life, and others. This is a known fact. What is now also a known fact is that beliefs can change our neurobiological chemistry and our genes. So, as an example, if buried inside of you there is a belief that you are ‘not good enough’, this throws your body and brain chemistry off balance, your genes respond negatively and you become vulnerable to developing emotional and physical problems. Imagine that! All of this happens because of a belief you are carrying inside you! It could be an unconscious, buried, suppressed or hidden belief. Or it could be a belief that you are aware of.
You are broadcasting your beliefs
There is one more vitally important fact for all parents to know and this is that your kids are picking up on your beliefs. They have an innate sensing mechanism for this. And as much as your beliefs can mess with your chemistry so it can mess with theirs too. In their earlier years, they may not be able to put words to what they are sensing but they ‘know’ at a cellular level what you are believing about yourself and about them. While it is extremely important for all parents to know this, it is even more so, for parents who have kids grappling with learning, behavior or mood challenges. This is because what you believe about your child’s challenges will either keep them stuck or help them overcome their challenges.
If you believe your child is ‘limited’ then they will be limited. Your child cannot become more than what you believe about him or her.
Check Your Beliefs
If you are the parent of a child with any kind of challenges, check what you are believing because if you are responding (even unconsciously) from any of the beliefs below, your child knows it. This will make it difficult for them to connect with their true, powerful self and infinite potential.
- My child is limited in what he/she is capable of.
- There is something wrong.
- This is a big problem and I don’t know how to help him/her.
- This is my fault as a parent.
- I wish he/she did not have these challenges.
- My child is not like other normal kids.
- Life is difficult for my child.
- Life is difficult for me.
- My child’s future looks worrisome/bleak/limited.
- It’s unfair!
Replace these beliefs with:
- This wondrous child has come to teach us all something very important.
- My child sees life in wondrous ways.
- I can enter into my child’s wondrous world with him or her.
- My child has unique talents and abilities.
- I can connect with this unique child.
- I learn something new every day from my child.
One of my first rules of NeuroParenting is to bring your core beliefs into awareness. Knowing what beliefs you are ‘broadcasting’ to your children is so critically important. Proudly own the positive beliefs. Courageously identify and change limiting beliefs that you would not want your children to inherit.
(N.B. Have you seen my coaching video on this called, See the Child; Free the Child? You can get it FREE by signing up for it on my home page).