Every time I work with a child I know in my head and my heart that there is a healthy, emotionally balanced, uniquely talented, smart and happy boy or girl struggling to burst free. I see children caught in the grip of ‘stuff’ happening inside of themselves that is beyond their control. I see children longing for the adults around them to discover what is holding them back and do something to fix it. And each time, I wish with all of my being that I could fix their challenges in a single session instead of the weeks and sometimes months it takes to identify the underlying causes and fix these.
You are probably aware that dolphins have a mysterious power to trigger the healing process in children (and adults). As they swim towards the child, they seem to instinctively know the primary causes of the child’s problem. and how to heal this. Much research shows that children on the spectrum, including also those with developmental and physical challenges benefit from dolphin therapy. Benefits of dolphin-assisted therapy have been seen in learning, cognitive abilities, attention span, communication, emotional behavior, confidence and self-esteem, mood and ability to relate to others. Children with autism can begin pronouncing words and communicating better in general, as well as improvement of eye contact, smiling, laughing and touching
Research still continues in order to discover the mechanism through which this remarkable healing takes place. Just some of what existing research indicates is that:
- It appears that dolphins can sense human-energy-field imbalances and can adjust this.
- Brain-wave activity between the left brain and right brain are synchronized.
- These brain-wave alterations may explain why after swimming with dolphins children feel elated. This ‘high’ can initiate a cascade of health-enhancing hormonal and physiological changes in the child with beneficial healing effects on the body and brain.
- David Cole and Dr. Jozsef found through their biofeedback research that brain wave pattern drops from stress waves (beta brain waves) down to a calm, meditative brain waves (alpha brain waves).
Parents can heal like dolphins do.
After studying the literature and research on dolphin healing for many years, I have come to the conclusion that parents can have exactly the same healing effect as dolphins do – provided that you are able to display the same interactions as dolphins do.
Let’s look at the 7 interactions between dolphins and children that contribute to healing:
1. Dolphins are calm and stress-free.
2. They are always totally and fully present with the children.
3. Gentle, friendly and happy demeanor.
4. Show unconditional love.
5. Are compassionate and non-judgmental.
6. Display great empathy and care.
7. Have a well-developed sense of humor
These 7 healing interactions allow a deep trusting bond to develop between the child and the dolphin.
Children feel, relaxed and safe with them! No expectations, no judgments, no stress, no pressure. Just calm, gentle acceptance and love.
It all begins with losing your stress.
Researchers have found that dolphin therapy helps children immensely by reducing their stress and increasing relaxation. It works the same with for parents. Healing begins when parent-child interactions are calm and stress-free. If you follow my articles you know that I feel strongly that stressed parents (unintentionally) create stressed children. It is almost impossible for stressed moms and dads to display the remarkable healing dolphin characteristics described above – to be calm and relaxed, totally present, gentle and friendly, non-judgmental, unconditionally loving, compassionate, empathic and laugh a lot!
Having seen it over and over again over many years of practice, I am absolutely convinced, , that all of the above characteristics will flow naturally from you – when- and only when you are not stressed. You owe it to yourself and to your children to start reducing your stress TODAY.
Dr Sandy is a health and behavior coach. She uses a whole brain approach to teach parents (and teachers) how to reduce stress in themselves and their children.